The hardest thing is letting go and trying not to direct. Praying you learned from your mistakes not from a view of judgement, but so that your pain doesn’t have to be repeated from a self- inflicted wound. There are so many wounds that will take place in this life. To try to shield you from them is wrong – to try to protect you is right. Do you understand why I beg for wisdom? Can you have compassion when I thought I had the right answer but was clearly wrong? Can you forgive your-self when you couldn’t see I was trying my best?
Stay humble. This world is sorely lacking love. This world is full of love for self. The principle that says I should go to you even if I think something maybe wrong hardly exists. Don’t throw that principle away. Its tenderness is set in a cast of compassion and is supposed to be our driving force.
Just love and let God judge. The mandate has nothing to do with judging and everything to do with giving. And when God gives to a heart that asks for His presence in their life, we have nothing to do but encourage. But when we are asked for Truth, we must speak the Truth in love. Many always have and always will interject opinion and call it Truth. We have one mandate: Go ye. Many have chosen “their rights” over “Go ye.” We know how this ends. When we have to answer for our choices, I do not believe which way I voted will be a part of the process. I believe it will be who I directed to Living Water when they were thirsty.
Who I loved may be a great factor. Not who I argued with and stood my ground with out of the necessity of being right even in the name of righteousness, but who saw Love. And perhaps because I acquiesced to choose love over “my rights,” they may know love eternally. My rights were purchased and sometimes I also forget.
You will make many more mistakes – big ones, little ones – let them be flat stones
To walk forward on. When it’s time to stop all the noise and think and pray, do so. When it is time to get up and walk by faith without a plan – do so. Get your heart so quiet that you can listen for the next step even when it doesn’t always make sense logically. That is faith. How can you know for sure if that’s Love speaking? The peace that passes all understanding accompanies it. But what if the peace does not last? Then it’s time to ask for the wisdom for the next step. Do not ask for riches, the right mate, the right job, the right anything before you ask for wisdom. He always honors the request for wisdom.
Make sure as much as lies within you that you are walking “right.” Never will you or I or anyone be perfect. Apologize quickly. Do not beg for affection or attention. Create if you must and share – hone your craft or crafts. Don’t be sloppy before you put something out for others to see. Take pride in what you do, and in yourself.
If the people you hang around with are nothing but a spiritual drain, it’s time to change up your scenery – even if that means being alone for a while. There will never be friendships or relationships that are 50/50. Or if so – they are exceedingly rare, you will be on the giving end most likely more so – but to be taken advantage of constantly is highly unnecessary. Are you not worth more? Hold yourself as such and you will attract what is better for you eventually. And then there should not always be so much work involved – not all the time. Yes there is work in any and all relationships, but something is wrong if they are laborious all the time.
Take care of you – inner and outer. Spend quiet time every morning – best investment you’ll ever make. This is where and when you can show gratitude, ask where you need to change, and ask for wisdom liberally for any and all situations.
Sugar is addictive and will do you very much damage. Eat foods as naturally as possible. Sweets are way more enjoyable when eaten sparingly and not as a way of life. Protein is your friend and so is walking.
Read. Don’t stop learning. Don’t give up. Don’t waste money. Save – if not for the you now, then the you in 20 years. Start acting on what you have been taught about money. Do you really want respect? Then seek God’s favor first. Do it quietly. I don’t mean you can’t be loud and silly when it’s time – but know when it’s not time. Refer back to: Seeking Wisdom. Be you for today. Stay like clay in the Master’s hands and let Him mold you. Go to Him not just when you are sad, but acknowledge immediately and often when you see answered prayer.
Forgive and move on. Forgive and know when to stay close and when to stay far away. Get rid of all roots of bitterness and if you have to re-visit something you thought was gone – it’s ok – it’s part of being human, but get rid of what grew back that doesn’t belong.
Never blame shift. Own whatever belongs to you – don’t accept someone else’s failures as your own. “Show me how to love, show me how to receive love.” You would not be alone when you need to ask this. Many of us don’t know these things well although you would think they would come naturally. Sometimes unfortunate situations skew this natural ability, but it’s ok. It doesn’t have to stay that way. It’s a learning process.
While trying to see the good in others, don’t project something good on them that simply does not exist in them. That’s dangerous. Do you understand why the necessity to ask for wisdom. Don’t manipulate and don’t be manipulated. Be fair, be honest. In a world that teaches quite the opposite – live contrary purposefully. Live with purpose.